Get over breakups - thinksimplenow.com

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Tip# 4 in this article is my personal favourite ...
Njoi...

For Singles Only

When single, relationship word brings up a sigh in most people, especially if they were not in a long term relation before.

Its mostly due to the feeling that there's a gap, which one feels will be filled someone "special" is there in life to share everything.
Believe me, one can feel whole and complete even when single, if you know how to enjoy the state...

Be in relationship, with the most special person in ur life who's never going to leave you, who'll always be with you, accept you just as you are .. be, in relation with urself...
well, ones own self answers all those criteria which one looks for in a relation, doesn't it?
Listen to songs, and imagine the guy/gal is singing all those praises exclusive for u..
Buy something you love, small things.. something which u'll expect when in relation... buy for urself..
Cook something fancy for yourself...
Treat yourself like royalty... Pamper yourself...
Forgive yourself for all small and big mistakes as you would for a person you love... accept yourself totally...

And i believe the sigh which comes most often then, is the sigh of contentment, of the simplicity of Life... of the Happiness, of the Pure Love...
if one loves oneself totally, without restrictions, conditions...

Arranged marriage

I was sixteen when I first declared to my mom that I'll never ever go for arranged marriage.
Just imagine, you see a photo, talk for couple of days and then decide to spend rest of life together !!!
Thats one definition for Madness, i thought back then..

Now? well, time taught me that noone remains the same.
Love marriage or arranged, people keep changing.

In fact, Love matches can cause more pain coz of the expectations and false images we have of each other.
Love match, you expect the best after marriage and even minor issues appears depressing.
Arranged ones, you have no expectations, in fact most enter with a feeling of dread, that every small pleasure comes as a pleasant surprise and cause lots of happiness...
Plus, in arranged, you don't have to impress in-laws (after all they are the ones who came looking for you !) so half the battle is won.

and while i won't vote for arranged, am not against it either.

Thanks Life for the invaluable lesson

Orange

'Orange' (telugu movie)

I loved the story.
It shows relation in a realistic way, and I could relate to it so much.
Its abt the fickle emotions in 'Love'... how its good only for a short while and long term ones are more or less full of lies or compromises....

End was also kind of ok, with the moral, that if you keep breaking up with ppl for some excuses, in the end you will remain alone with those excuses...
Instead of that, whenever you are running out of Love, never lie, never act... but try to love a little more and then a little more.. and then you can have Love greater than the Ocean ....
Nice concept right :)

Hello

Long time. No see, no say :)
How come time goes so fast, and i still feel the same...
Have i changed or remained the same..
'Hi' and 'bye' come more easily now than before.
Perhaps, too easily....

Well lets see in what ways i feel changed:
1. Am actually thinking of marriage :D .... weighing the pros and cons of arranged marriage.
I still got time to think of it, so i'll cross this bridge when am there...

2. Still feel sad when ppl go far, but not for long and not so intense....

A long pause, and i can't think of anythg to write !!!

Time for a break.
Take care and bfn

The other side of me...

Most of the time, I suppress the negative side of me- the anger, jealousy, stubbornness, etc. etc.
Suppress them from coming into public view, that is.
Those close to me will definitely have atleast a glimpse of it, and maybe coz of it they are close to me.

All the years I've thought that being a "good" girl is a admirable goal.
But that goal has been so tiresome and depressing.
Its such a burden to be labelled a good person and look within myself to see all those negative traits.

Thanks to the books i've read and people i've met, i've come to realise that the so-called negative things are not so bad after all.
I can still feel them... I can see them but knowing that i can the control them (uhm, sometimes) is so self-satisfying, that am kind of proud to be myself.

I just keep one thing in mind.
Its tough to label myself as good and then notice and suppress the faults in me.
Instead, I see myself as bad and notice and be proud of the good in me :)
Twisted thinking, but works for me.
Kind of Glass half empty/full theory.

And the ultimate goal is not to be good or bad.. but to be myself.. the authentic ME. Right?

Full Circle

In school Maths class, there were questions like, given two formula "a" and "b" prove a=b.
So we would start out operating on "a", and applying all the theorems we know, try to bring out "b" from twisting and transforming "a".
Sometimes the end result of those transformations lead back to "a"... Hence we end up proving, a=a. :)
It was worth the laugh to realise we spent all that time, effort and theorems, go full circle and come back to prove a=a

In search of God, i keep reading so many books, keep looking out to find Him...for some secret access code and it ultimately leads back to oneself.
Read any religious book, somewhere or other you'll find that statement, that God can be found only in oneself, and not outside...
Travel full circle, and back to oneself agn.

I don't exactly know whats the common point between the maths theorem and the search for God.
Somehow my mind links those two as similar.... perhaps its the point that start and end points were same in both context, so posted them here in same place....